My Experience Of Online Dating

I was an online dating virgin until last year.

I had heard many weird and wonderful stories from friends who had used the internet to try and find that special someone, or in some peoples cases to find something more casual! I wanted to date. I wanted to meet new people, and hopefully, in time, find a person who I had a connection with, something different to what I had felt in previous relationships. We've all heard of the saying "you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince" - this couldn't be more true!


Online dating is an eye opening experience, from deciding which websites to sign up to; Tinder? OK Cupid? Match.com? POF? There are so many to choose from, and who has the time to set a profile on all of them? A friend recommended I sign up to POF (Plenty of Fish), so after some persuasion I did, but it's not just as simple as filling in your email address and off you go.....

Age:
Height:
Children:
Hair Colour:
Eye Colour:
Body Type:
Smoker:
Drinker:
Drug User:
Looking For:

The list goes on.....

The hardest part of creating a profile, I found, is writing a few paragraphs about yourself, somehow writing "Food loving, PJ wearer that likes to go to bed at 10pm every night" doesn't sound too appealing. I sat for a while thinking of something interesting to write and it's harder than it sounds, however after many drafts I published something remotely interesting and then the messages started.....

BigMatt1982: Hey gorgeous
Me: Hello Matt, how are you?
BigMatt1982: Gd thnx, wuu2?

NO! NO! NO!

I quickly realised I had some things that instantly made me say no to people, even if they looked like Brad Pitt! I hated text speak, I didn't want to know peoples Snapchat, Instagram or KIK (I didn't even know what this was before entering the madness of online dating) and if someone hadn't even bothered to write something about themselves, instead, writing something along the lines of "fill in later" it would make my blood boil and it was a definite NO! It crossed my mind that I was being fussy but then I decided I wasn't being fussy at all, I am 28 not 21, I wanted to find a man who wanted the same things in life as me. I knew what I wanted and it wasn't the guy taking a topless selfie in the gym while offering out d*ck pics - yes it happens! I also realised that I got bored very easily, if the conversation was the same mundane questions over and over again, I would quickly loose interest and move on.

I did try Tinder for a short amount of time. I think I lasted a few hours and after swiping through all the men in a 20 mile radius I was bored and went back to POF.

I chatted to a few people and then plucked up the courage to go on a few dates. My first, first date was with a nice normal guy however I was that nervous I drank my own body weight in Merlot and fell down some stairs - classy.  I met a variety of people, from a normal dad of two, to the religious singer with a 14 year old stalker. Oh and not forgetting the guy who thought cooking a meal for him was an immediate pass to the bedroom. 

Some of the people I went on dates with were very nice people but if there isn't that spark there, there isn't much point in wasting each others time and just moving on. At first it was quite entertaining and exciting and I got into the swing of meeting new people for a drink and possibly a second or third date but after a few bad dates I decided to lay off the online dating, it got quite time consuming especially if the person you had agreed to meet lived a distance away from you.

But then, a guy who lived in the same city as me messaged and he actually took the time to read my profile and write something interesting. He used correctly spelt words and there was no mention of d*ck pic - where had he been all of my life?! We met, we laughed, we drank, we decided to do it again. We met, we laughed, we ate, we decided to do it again! And now......we wake up together, we live together, we make decisions together, we laugh together and we are together. 


Online dating helped me find my now partner.

I would definitely recommend online dating to people, it was fun, crazy, weird and entertaining however I am glad I am now offline.

If you do decide to use online dating websites always remember to be safe, meet in a public place and let someone know where you are going.

Have you ever used online dating sites? If so, what was your experience like?


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8 Comments:

  1. Oh this is fab Emma, three of my friends also found their Mr Right via POF and two are now married and one is getting married in 2018 x

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  2. Glad online dating worked out for you - I've heard so many horror stories though of really bad dates! x

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  3. Awwh this was a really enjoyable read! I've never dated online or been part of the tinder crowd, my sister however met her partner on POF and they have been together some years now :) very sweet and glad it works out for some!

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  4. What a lovely post! I've recently found myself single after an 8 year relationship and the thought of dating terrifies me. I have heard that POF is the most "normal" out of them all though!
    Other than apps, I'm at a bit of a loss of how to meet people! X

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  5. I've never done the online dating thing, but I'm just like you about textspeak!

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  6. This is so cute and funny all at the same time - made me smile and giggle a lot. I could never ever date a text speaker either babe so I'm totally with you on that! <3
    I've never tried online dating and thankfully I'll never need too as I'm married now, online dating kinda scares me a little.

    With love, Alisha Valerie. xo
    http://alishavalerie.blogspot.com
    http://twitter.com/alishavalerie

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  7. Love this post so much! You've reminded me of a post on online dating I wanted to write about a while back... I'll save it for mine and Mr L's 2 year anniversary since we went on our first date after talking for weeks on POF!

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  8. Omg such a sweet story. I met my recent boyfriend online too, actually on Tinder. We were together for almost 2 years but sadly it doesn't work anymore. I am so happy you found love and that it worked for you. Great post x

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